Nisaa's plentiful questions thread

Too much effort, they didn't describe it the new way just the normal way I learnt it, but explain to me how exactly you're meant to because I don't wanna be doing anything wrong.

ermm.. the tasbeeh in salaah is sunnah to say it three times but is it mustahab to say it more? like 5,7,9, etc.. ? do ya get more reward?

what else what else there's questions I just forget and then remember ...

if there's Qur'anic ayah in kitaabs etc.. can you touch without wudu? I asked this and someone posted a fatwa.. but I feel unsure still.. because when we were doing the tafseer of the basmalah... the sheikh was saying that you can't touch it because it's an ayah of the Qur'an without wudu... whether he meant inside the mushaf or not... I'm not sure about that part but.. hm..

can you? The fatwa said you can as it isn't considered the mushaf.. correct?

and when you begin to recite the Qur'an, then you start with seeking refuge in Allah but do you say the basmalah too? Yes no no yes?

*shrugs* I remember that anything you start without the bismillah is cut off from barakah so in that regard is it okay to say it ?

these are all edits I never sat and thought about my questions I just didn't wanna increase my post count. =/

Did the souls meet in Jannah? =o If so that's so cool... wowwwww my soul maybe it met urban rose's soul! Or maybe it met .. some other cool person! Someone said to me you know when you get married and you find 'the one' and 'you just know' it's cause your souls met before already... =o is that true?

Woohoo! If it's true it means all your souls already met their spouses souls... how embarrassing is that... =o That's mega embarrassing...

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Too much effort, they didn't describe it the new way just the normal way I learnt it, but explain to me how exactly you're meant to because I don't wanna be doing anything wrong.

How is the way you do it?

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ermm.. the tasbeeh in salaah is sunnah to say it three times but is it mustahab to say it more? like 5,7,9, etc.. ? do ya get more reward?

I can't exactly give a ruling on this as i'm not sure

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if there's Qur'anic ayah in kitaabs etc.. can you touch without wudu? I asked this and someone posted a fatwa.. but I feel unsure still.. because when we were doing the tafseer of the basmalah... the sheikh was saying that you can't touch it because it's an ayah of the Qur'an without wudu... whether he meant inside the mushaf or not... I'm not sure about that part but.. hm..

can you? The fatwa said you can as it isn't considered the mushaf.. correct?

I believe it's imaam nawawi rahimahullaah who mentioned in one of his kitaabs that i was reading that there are two views, one view says it's permissable, the other view said it's not, i personally hold the second view.

The second view said so much as a fiqh kitaab that mentions aayaah, they too cannot be touched without wudhu.

The way i see it it is the qur'aan that cannot be touched without wudhu, not just the mushaf, unless of course a person believes that singular juz's are not regarded as qur'aan then that would be a different story.

Also the aayah prohibiting touching the qur'aan without wudhu was revealed before the qur'aan was fully revealed, so that would refute a view like the one mentioned above.

Anyhow it's a long discussion, but tafseer kitaabs are mostly qur'aan, so i would say it is not permissable to touch them without wudhu.

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and when you begin to recite the Qur'an, then you start with seeking refuge in Allah but do you say the basmalah too? Yes no no yes?

*shrugs* I remember that anything you start without the bismillah is cut off from barakah so in that regard is it okay to say it ?

of course you recite bismillaah, the only surah you don't recite it for is surah tawbah, but for all other surahs and whenever you you start in the middle of a surah you always start with bismillaah.

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Did the souls meet in Jannah? =o If so that's so cool... wowwwww my soul maybe it met urban rose's soul! Or maybe it met .. some other cool person! Someone said to me you know when you get married and you find 'the one' and 'you just know' it's cause your souls met before already... =o is that true?

Do a search on ummah for "conscripted soldiers", it should bring up a discussion on it, i think it was posted by salman, but yeah basically it would tell you that you met urban rose and that's why you find yourself liking her

Wiping the ears in wudoo’
There was a dispute about wiping the ears in wudoo’. Some people say that there is no proof that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wiped his ears when performing wudoo’.

Praise be to Allaah.

There is proof that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wiped his head and ears when performing wudoo’. Ibn ‘Abbaas reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) “wiped his head and his ears, inside and out.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, who classed it as saheeh). Al-Nisaa'i reports that he “wiped his head and his ears, wiping the inside of them with his index-finger and the outside of them with his thumb.” (Classed as saheeh by Ibn Khuzaymah). Abu Dawood and al-Tahhaawi report from Miqdaad ibn Ma’di Karb that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) “when he performed wudoo’, wiped his head and his ears, inside and out, inserting his finger into the ear canal.” (Reported by Abu Dawood; al-Haafiz ibn Hijr said: “Its isnaad is hasan.”) There is no dispute that one should wipe the ears during wudoo’; the dispute is as to whether they are considered to be part of the head or not, and whether it is sunnah or waajib (obligatory) to wipe them.

Admin - you made a thread on ummah about multiple intentions... is it allowed, I'll find the thread and see if there's any replies that give evidence but if you have any more information do share.

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=209497

^ Oh okay.. so it is allowed?

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So are you saying now that Allaah don't accept your du'aa if you make it out of Salaah?

Nope, but it's like.. special innit.. lol.. =( I dunno.. =/ I wanna make dua then too! When you hear or read things about gaining khushoo they say make dua in sujood.

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I keep track of them, i normally never let it reach more than 3 before i fulfill it.

How do you do multiple ones? Go down with Allahu akbar, then do one prostration, get up and do it again or can you just do more than one prostration in one sitting?

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There's no ikhtilaaf concerning it, when the sun rises then it's risen, you'll have to see what time it is based upon where you live.

No, like after sunrise.. ? Until it comes up? Because you can't pray at that time right? How long is that time..


I found this patronising..

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So are you saying now that Allaah don't accept your du'aa if you make it out of Salaah?

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I don't have anymore questions.


Okay random. =/ My posts are massively long I have just realised, I have a question.

The niyyah before starting an act of worship, ( salaah as well cause we were taught to say this whole intention thing.. ) cannot be said verbally?

Oh and say a man proposed to a girl, and then the girl said yes, and everything was going good and they gave each other presents, then it didn't work out (there was no nikah, just the promise of marriage) so does he have to give back to her his gift (and she his) even if they say that each can keep what the other gave? Does he have to give it back to her and does she have to give back the gifts he gave her?

You know the nikah right, it has to be done on the same day... but I was at one, and they came to the woman she said yes and then THE NEXT DAY the dude said whatever and they did the whole thingy in the masjid. Is that allowed? Is it allowed to be together when the nikah is in process, that seems to make more sense to me? =s

You know court marriages and stuff, what's the ruling on that, is it allowed? Like there's no point cause you're married Islamically, and I don't think you can change surnames anyway (? to the hubbys one.. ) so like... what's the deal with them.. and is it allowed even?

Are skulls considered faces? So you can't wear it? I mean something with a skull on it..

When is 'lying' allowed? I know (well I think can't be sure) that when a wife cooks bad the husband can be like "oh it's nice!! YUM YUM" haha.. =P or her clothes are HIDEOUS and he can like "they're lovely! Where'd yer pick them up from the bin?" lol!

Say your friend comes to you with something new they've brought to wear, and they ask you if it's nice and you just don't want to hurt their feelings (you don't like it =s) and so you say it's nice ... =o is that lying? I couldn't say "it's gross what compelled you to by it you'll look like a flaming drag queen" =/

You know the issue with faces on clothes... if you paint over the eyes is it okay to wear?

Or is it also the figure?

You know if you intended to pray a nafl salaah for an obligatory salaah (like after Isha or Duhr or Maghrib.. ) but then you got busy or I dunno fell asleep.. =/ and then the time has gone so can you change that intention to just praying a nafl or to something else? Or do you keep the same intention... but then there's no qadha of voluntary prayers is there? hmm..

I find it weird.. how can someone marry someone they don't wanna marry just to please their parents? Why would you do that... I'm really not wanting to sound selfish and cold hearted but.. I can't get my head round this idea.

I read about it, and people just get married because their parents told them to, and I don't really understand..

Isn't the girl meant to have the final say?

Is that really disobedient of me to think like that? Seriously because I dislike this whole concept big time, it makes me annoyed. Maybe because I've witnessed people stuck in relationships just cause, just cause what... *sigh* Do you have to do everything what your parents tell you?

What's the limit, where's the line drawn? I've wondered this.. not just with marriage but with other things too... if they are displeased with you following a particular sunnah or doing something... or you know stuff like that..

and you know if a man sees you without hijaab for like a split second and it was your mistake because you assumed they wouldn't be right there, does anyone get sinned?

And can I wipe over regular socks? Like at home? And at home also wipe over the khimar? You can wipe over it out and about right? You're outside and you need to perform wudu, it would be hard taking it off..

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Wiping the ears in wudoo’

The way they mention it is the same as one of my ustaadhs used to do.

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Admin - you made a thread on ummah about multiple intentions... is it allowed, I'll find the thread and see if there's any replies that give evidence but if you have any more information do share.

I remember that thread, in fact i'm still supposed to finish off the chapter in the hanafi al-ashbaa wa an-naazhaa'ir which talks about multiple intentions, what i read so far was about making two fardh's and so on, i hadn't come yet to 2 nafl (if it's even mentioned that is), but when i check it out then i'll let you know Inshaa Allaah

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Nope, but it's like.. special innit.. lol.. =( I dunno.. =/ I wanna make dua then too! When you hear or read things about gaining khushoo they say make dua in sujood.

You asians and your wackyness if you go to Ummah and look at RaNd0m's thread called "the hour of response", then you'll fall in love with that again and only want to make du'aa at that time

Just make salaah as normal, and if you really want to make du'aa in sujood then go make an extra 2 rakaa'ah nafl and make du'aa there.

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How do you do multiple ones? Go down with Allahu akbar, then do one prostration, get up and do it again or can you just do more than one prostration in one sitting?

Nope you do each one seperately, you dont do two sajdahs in one sitting.

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No, like after sunrise.. ? Until it comes up? Because you can't pray at that time right? How long is that time..

What time is your true dawn and sunrise?

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I found this patronising..

Sorra baaj it wasn't directed at you though, i always use the general 'you'

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The niyyah before starting an act of worship, ( salaah as well cause we were taught to say this whole intention thing.. ) cannot be said verbally?

It's fine to say it verbally, in fact Imaam kaasaani Rahimahullaah holds the view that you should say it verbally.

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Oh and say a man proposed to a girl, and then the girl said yes, and everything was going good and they gave each other presents, then it didn't work out (there was no nikah, just the promise of marriage) so does he have to give back to her his gift (and she his) even if they say that each can keep what the other gave? Does he have to give it back to her and does she have to give back the gifts he gave her?

Why would they have to give it back?

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You know the nikah right, it has to be done on the same day... but I was at one, and they came to the woman she said yes and then THE NEXT DAY the dude said whatever and they did the whole thingy in the masjid. Is that allowed? Is it allowed to be together when the nikah is in process, that seems to make more sense to me? =s

Yeah that's permissable, what you mean when the nikah is in process?

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You know court marriages and stuff, what's the ruling on that, is it allowed? Like there's no point cause you're married Islamically, and I don't think you can change surnames anyway (? to the hubbys one.. ) so like... what's the deal with them.. and is it allowed even?

court marriages aren't marriages, because a kaafir can't conduct muslim marraiges, nor can a kaafir be a witness. As for the changing surnames, ask-imam has a fatwa which says it's permissable to change surnames, you should check it out.

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Are skulls considered faces? So you can't wear it? I mean something with a skull on it..

yep they fall in the same category as faces.

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When is 'lying' allowed? I know (well I think can't be sure) that when a wife cooks bad the husband can be like "oh it's nice!! YUM YUM" haha.. =P or her clothes are HIDEOUS and he can like "they're lovely! Where'd yer pick them up from the bin?" lol!

Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Lying is wrong, except in three things: the lie of a man to his wife to make her content with him; a lie in war, for war is deception; or a lie to settle trouble between people” (Ahmad, 6.459. H)."

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Say your friend comes to you with something new they've brought to wear, and they ask you if it's nice and you just don't want to hurt their feelings (you don't like it =s) and so you say it's nice ... =o is that lying? I couldn't say "it's gross what compelled you to by it you'll look like a flaming drag queen" =/

Laa adree.

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You know the issue with faces on clothes... if you paint over the eyes is it okay to wear?

Or is it also the figure?

You need to paint over the face, then the figure will be okay, though people shouldn't be wearing such things to begin with

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but then there's no qadha of voluntary prayers is there?

Nope there isn't.

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I find it weird.. how can someone marry someone they don't wanna marry just to please their parents? Why would you do that... I'm really not wanting to sound selfish and cold hearted but.. I can't get my head round this idea.

I read about it, and people just get married because their parents told them to, and I don't really understand..

Isn't the girl meant to have the final say?

The girl has the final say, if she says no then there's no marraige, but if she goes ahead with it to please her parents then the marriage is complete, but why they'd do such things is beyond me.

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What's the limit, where's the line drawn? I've wondered this.. not just with marriage but with other things too... if they are displeased with you following a particular sunnah or doing something... or you know stuff like that..

There's no obedience to parents in the disobedience of Allaah, however that doesn't mean now if a guy wants to become a hermit then he can do so regardless of what his parents say, no, in such things he has to listen to them.

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and you know if a man sees you without hijaab for like a split second and it was your mistake because you assumed they wouldn't be right there, does anyone get sinned?

Allaah is most merciful, and most forgiving, inshaa Allaah you won't get punished for slips if it weren't out of negligence.

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And can I wipe over regular socks? Like at home? And at home also wipe over the khimar? You can wipe over it out and about right? You're outside and you need to perform wudu, it would be hard taking it off..

No you cannot wipe over any socks besides khuffain which are made of leather, your wudhu will not be valid if you make over other socks.

Nor can you wipe over your scarf, you have to wipe over your hair, you just have to pass your wet hands beneath it, it's no big deal.

I can't paint over a whole face, it'll look mank. Aww.. oh well.

for answering my questions. And you're an asian too (coconut), so you're wacky also.

I'm very much different to the rank and file asians, i want to reform asians because they're quite in need of a service

oh yes i just got this link in an email so i thought i'd give it to you,

http://english.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/ShowFatwa.php?lang=E&Id=90869&Option=FatwaId&x=24&y=11

They're salafi but even they agree that you should avoid it, they wouldn't say avoid it if it was totally permissable as some people claim.

What do you mean by that? =/ You make me feel inferior... =/

Okay then. I was just wondering..

Please go and answer the questions in aqeedah section them are major major important

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What do you mean by that? =/ You make me feel inferior... =/

Don't worry you aren't inferior

What i mean is that asians are obsessed with fantasy, all those fantasy sufi stories of flying on musallahs and them doing spectral projection, and all other type of things like that, 99% of the stories are false, yet asians cling to it so, as if Islaam as it is is not good enough, they need to add more "masala" to it

Someone told me the following narration the other day, he never mentioned a source but i'm quoting it for the lesson only, the one sahaabi had a son, and this son came home one day and told his father about these great people who were gathered in a group reading qur'aan and making dhikr, and one of them even went into haal and fainted, so his father said: that does not say anything about strength in eemaan, weakness yes but not strength, for i have seen Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam and Abu Bakr and 'umar and 'uthmaan and 'Ali (and other sahaabah as well), and none of them ever went out of their mind and fainted when reciting the Qur'aan, so do you mean to tell me that these people have stronger eemaan then Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam? then his son understood and said: i will never associate with them ever again.

the story went something like that, anyhow the point is that asians get all when they read fantasy sufi stories and still feel that it is authentic and great to be like that.

The only people who hold that opinion are the salafis, not any of the madhabs.

I'm confused.. I know I shouldn't be fatwa shopping but..

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Praise be to Allaah.

Cutting hair to make it all of equal length, reaching the shoulders or ears is OK, so long as that does not involve resembling the kuffaar. Resembling the kuffaar is haraam even if it is in regard to something that in principle is permitted.

With regard to cutting some of the hair and leaving some of it, that is not permitted. This is the hairstyle which was forbidden by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), as is narrated in Saheeh al-Bukhaari and elsewhere.

This ruling applies to both men and women. It is OK to cut the hair and make it of equal length so long as that does not involve resembling the kuffaar, or making men resemble women and vice versa. Women should not cut their hair short in a manner that resembles men’s hairstyles.


Shaykh ‘Abd al-Kareem al-Khudayr

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however..

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What is the ruling about the haircut favoured by some women, whereby they cut the hair across their foreheads (“bangs” or “fringe”) and allow some locks or strands of hair to hang forward?

Praise be to Allaah.

If the purpose of this haircut is to resemble kaafir and atheist women, then it is haraam, because imitation of non-Muslims is haraam, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” If the aim is not to imitate the non-Muslims, and it is only a modern trend among women that is considered attractive, then a woman can adorn herself in this way for her husband and appear like this in front of her close friends so that she may look and feel good among them. We do not see anything wrong with this.

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A fringe is different lengths.. it falls on your forehead.. ?

Then we have

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Praise be to Allaah.

We ask Allaah Almighty to increase you in faith and to make you content with the truth.

Your question includes two issues:

1 – the ruling on cutting women’s hair. Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

We do not know anything (to disallow) cutting women’s hair. What is forbidden is shaving it. You should not shave your hair but you may cut it and reduce its length or volume; we know of nothing wrong with that. But that should be done in a proper manner which will please you and your husband. You should come to some agreement with him on a kind of haircut that does not resemble kaafir women, because if you leave it long, it will be a lot of trouble to wash it and comb it. So if the hair is very long or thick, and the woman cuts it to reduce its length or volume, that doesn’t matter. Cutting some of it will make it more beautiful, which will please both the woman and her husband. So we do not know of any reason to disallow that. But shaving it altogether is not permissible, except in the case of sickness. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

See Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, part 2, p. 515

It was narrated in Saheeh Muslim that Abu Salamah ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan said: “The wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to cut their hair until it came just below their ears.” (al-Hayd, 320)

Al-Nawawi said: this indicates that it is permissible for women to cut their hair short.

But women should avoid resembling kaafir women or immoral women when they cut their hair

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan said:

It is not permissible for a woman to cut her hair short in the back and leave the sides longer, because this involves disfiguring and fooling about with her hair which is part of her beauty, and it also involves imitating the kaafir women. This prohibition also applies to haircuts which are named after kaafir women or animals, like the “Diana” cut, named after a kaafir women, or the “lion” cut or “mouse” cut, because it is haraam to imitate the kaafirs or to imitate animals, and because that involves fooling about with a woman’s hair which is part of her beauty.

Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/516,517



=/ What's the proper proper ruling, because I keep wanting to side with it being allowed... =o

The first part which you have bolded about cutting the hair and leaving some, is that not referring to shaving the head but leaving like a lock of hair, cus a Sahaba or young child was seen with this and was admonished for it (i think thats how it goes, i cant remember but i read something like that ages back). Adherants of some other religion/s practise this. Im not too sure if its talking about the same thing though.

i have read numerous rulings on the matter of women's hair, and from that i always thought fringes did not come alongside the general rule for cutting/trimming hair, because it does make the hair of different lengths....if it is going to be cut then it should be all of one length, not cut excessively, not imitating fashion/kuffaar...and as far as i can remember that is specific to a fatwa i read by Shaykh ibn Baaz and reiterated by Mufti Taqi.

And the other day, i read another book, i dont have it with me at the mo, but i'll post some info from there properly later inshaAllah...and it mentions how the woman's long hair is her beauty and should not be cut unless in dire need for whatever reason...and that those who just take those few ahaadeeth of Rasulullah 's wives cutting their hair and its length...and using those as evidence to cut their hair to short lengths, they arent admirable...because they'd cut their hair after the death of Rasulullah as they had no need to beautify themselves any longer (as per the long hair). And that it is also mentioned in teachings of ghusl, that the women who plait their hair do not need to untie them, and ensure water reaches the roots which shows that the women in the time of Rasulullah did in fact have long hair.

I don't understand?

"and from that i always thought fringes did not come alongside the general rule for cutting/trimming hair, because it does make the hair of different lengths....if it is going to be cut then it should be all of one length, not cut excessively, not imitating fashion/kuffaar...and as far as i can remember that is specific to a fatwa i read by Shaykh ibn Baaz and reiterated by Mufti Taqi. "

So it's allowed? You can cut it as long as it's all one length? But on your actual hair, you can't have parts shorter, parts longer? You know what I mean right?

Some people say that you can cut your hair however for your husband? =o Is it that an honest opinion or did people just throw that in there like 'doing eyebrows... cause my husband... cause my huuusband' haha

Is not a fringe and even like all kinds of hairstyles imitations of the kuffar? Otherwise where do you draw the line of it not being? I would like to know what you can and can't cut, cause hmm... I thought you could chop your hair..

One length, to help hair growth/make it healthy...not all different lengths like layered haircuts nor fringes, as that it making a section of the hair a shorter length (apart from the natural growth)

If you're a married woman, then you should have the consent of your husband to cut/trim your hair, because he may like you to have it longer and so on. Those that say doing the eyebrows on instruction from the husband is permissable, then that particular issue is specifically mentioned in the hadeeth where Rasulullah cursed the woman who is tattooed, one who has her eyebrows trimmed and one who creates gaps between teeth for beauty as they seek to alter the creation of Allah. He cursed the woman and also the one does it for her. And in Surah Hashr, Ayah 7, Allah SWT says:

"Whatever the Messenger has ordered then obey him, and whatever he has forbade then leave it."

Therefore, for a woman to obey her husband on this matter would be a sin.

And what i mentioned earlier about the long hair being a sign of beauty. Scholars often talk about the natural beauty given to a woman by Allah SWT in the form of her hair. He SAW has chosen longer hair for women and the shorter hair for men. In the book, Masaail of the Hair, published in Azadville, they report a hadeeth of Rasulullah (the source is not given), whereby Allah has created a special group of angels whose duty is to perpetually recite the following:
"Glory unto Allah who has glorified men with beards and women with long hair."

It would be impermissable for the woman to cut their hair in such a way that it imitates men and the kuffar women. Men, would obviously be referring to very short hair (shaved, close to the roots, basically that which is permissable for a man)...kuffar women likeness can also be shaved very close to the roots, i.e so short that you cant differentiate gender fashionable styles every now and then whatever it may be.

Regarding the hadeeth which talk about Rasulullah 's wives (some of them) cutting their hair...after the death of Rasulullah in what is known as 'wafra', in Arabic terms, this can be taken as hair reaching the top of of the ear lobe and also extend to falling beyond the shoulders. During the lifetime of Rasulullah , when teaching about the acts of ghusl, the rulings for women (gathering hair at the nape/head/plaited etc) indicated women having long hair. After the death of Rasulullah , the wives of Rasulullah were not permitted to marry again (Surah Ahzaab, 53). They had no need to beautify themselves any longer, leaving some things which were associated with this theme, such as keeping the long hair. That is the reason some narrations talk about this.

And even when having long hair (whether you choose to trim it or not at all) it is the duty of the woman to look after it accordingly....to safeguard it from the gaze of non mahram men, not arrange it in styles which have been forbidden, not attach artificial hair etc.


Basically, if your hair is so long that you are having trouble managing it and to keep it healthier (through aid of making it slightly shorter than what it is to take care of it easier) that would be permissable. I think that is the main reason why those who follow this do cut their hair, to keep it healthy/get rid of split ends and all of that. However, just for the sake of cutting it, for beautifying (especially so with no intention of covering/hijaab) then that would be impermissable.

Oh and about the fatwas i mentioned earlier from Shaykh Abdullah ibn Baaz and Mufti Taqi Uthmaani...

Mufti Taqi was asked this question:

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Q.) I want to know the ruling on the hair cutting of women which involves:-

1. No resemblance with men.

2. No resemblance with Kaafir women.

3. Done with the consent of husband.

I have already heard of the general ruling on this subject that it is haram. But what makes me still ask the question is that the Arab Ulema including the grand Mufti of Saudia Sheikh Abdullah Bin Baz say: "We do not know anything (to disallow) cutting women's hair. What is forbidden is shaving it. You should not shave your hair but you may cut it and reduce its length or volume; we know of nothing wrong with that.

But that should be done in a proper manner which will please you and your husband. You should come to some agreement with him on a kind of haircut that does not resemble kaafir women, because if you leave it long, it will be a lot of trouble to wash it and comb it.

So if the hair is very long or thick, and the woman cuts it to reduce its length or volume, that doesn't matter. Cutting some of it will make it more beautiful, which will please both the woman and her husband. So we do not know of any reason to disallow that. But shaving it altogether is not permissible, except in the case of sickness. And Allah is the Source of strength." (See Fataawa al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, part 2, p. 515)

So I want to know the Daleel of Ahnaf by which they say this to be haram. Kindly guide to the solution which is most near to Qur'an & Sunnah. Also tell me the views of the four respected Imams on this issue. [Abdul Mateen]

His answer to this was:

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A.) Given the three conditions mentioned in your question I am agreeable to the Fatawa of Sheikh Abdullah Bin Baz

He then updated this by saying:

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Update: I have to make it clear that I have never issued any fatwa for the permissibility of the hair cut prevalent among the modern women which has a clear resemblance with non-Muslims. The question frequently asked here in my country was that some women cut their hair from the lower side in the belief that it will help in speedy growth of their hair and will make their hair longer in future. Cutting of the hairs in this case does not exceed a few inches. Similarly, some women do this to equate the level of their hairs from the lower side. I was frequently asked about this type of cutting. Since it does not have any resemblance with men or non-muslim women which was the basic cause of prohibition according to Imdad-ul-Fatawa v.4, p.227, and Imdad-ul-Ahkam v.4, p.354, I replied that this type of cutting or trimming is permissible.
As for my answer that is placed at the website, I have to clarify some points:

1. It was a question received at email. Since the question specifically mentioned that it relates to that type of hair cutting which has no resemblance with men or non-muslim women, I presumed that the person who has asked this question knows and admits the impermissibility of the prevalent haircut which resembles with non-muslim women, and the conditions mentioned in the question ruled out this possibility. Based on this presumption I replied in affirmative subject to these conditions.

2. The answer was given through email privately on the above presumption and was not intended to be published, but now when it has been published and was misused in favor of that haircut which has clear resemblance with non-muslims I feel that I should have clarified it in express terms.

Especially, after reading the question once again, I noticed that there is a sentence in the citation from Shaikh Abdullah which might create misunderstanding and which was perhaps missed by me at that time otherwise I would have clarified the issue at that time.

3. Now, it should be clearly understood that I have never issued a fatwa for the permissibility of cutting the hairs of women up to the shoulders or up to the ears, as is practiced by the European or American women, and in their imitation, by some others.

However, trimming the hair in order to make them grow quicker, or to bring them in a level in which there is no resemblance with men or non-muslim women is permissible. My answer that has been put on the website should be read in the light of this explanation.

Needs no further clarification really as its quite striaghtforward...the link for this is http://www.albalagh.net/qa/women_cut_hair.shtml

Hope that helps inshaAllah

Dumb it down for me urbs, I have difficulty digesting so much information. =(

So no you can't cut a fringe/layers etc.. but you can trim to make it all even?

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Dumb it down for me urbs, I have difficulty digesting so much information. =(

So no you can't cut a fringe/layers etc.. but you can trim to make it all even?

took me ages writing all that you are obligated to read it at least ten times

yup if you are gonna cut your hair then it hasta be evenly trimmed i know others regard normal hairstyles/fringes to be acceptable, but everything that i have read either forbids the cutting of the hair altogether (usually the older scholars, especially the Asian ones, however, in the particular society, long hair is seen as the complete embodiment of a womans beauty, in different cultures/nations, it may be different) or the other opinions which are similar to that which i posted (Baaz, Taqi one) about cutting with specific guidelines.

I did read it, yours made sense it was the fatwa what confused me. =(

sis.

I shall ask you a Q via PM insha Allah soon. =)

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Oh and say a man proposed to a girl, and then the girl said yes, and everything was going good and they gave each other presents, then it didn't work out (there was no nikah, just the promise of marriage) so does he have to give back to her his gift (and she his) even if they say that each can keep what the other gave? Does he have to give it back to her and does she have to give back the gifts he gave her?

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Why would they have to give it back?

Because in that fiqh of love lecture it says you gotta give back! And I was wondering well what if the pair don't want their gifts back..

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Yeah that's permissable, what you mean when the nikah is in process?

hmm... ? When you're nikah is happening, and you're there and you say yes okay whatever and he's like yes I accept, do you have to be separate from one another or can you be there together? Obviously with hijaab proper and everything cause he's not hubby yet and he'd have his witnesses there too right?

I find it sad if the girl is somewhere else and the man is somewhere else.. and the people have come to her to ask her whether she accepts or not.. can't she be in the same room. ? Is that not allowed?

And subh here it says at 1:24 and sunrise begins at 4:43... so you wait like 12/15 minutes and then you're okay to pray any kind of salaah again?

you know I asked about the nafl..

I heard that you have to make it, so say I intended to make 2 nafl after dhuhr, but I fell asleep, woke up it was Asr, I have to make them two before praying Asr..

and .. if you pray tahajjud right, then you pray witr after, do you pray 3 or 1?

Because of the hadith... goes like "the night prayer is two by two and when one fears the approaching of dawn, let him pray one rakaah and that will be his witr"

and if you hear a person sneeze but no alhamdulillah, do you have to reply? I reply anyway... even though I don't hear a alhamdulillah, but is that wrong? I fear because we've been ordered to do it.. =o so I just say it anyway..

and I understand the women and cutting hair issue now... alhamdulillah, I guess I needed it explaining verbally. =)

I have a questions regarding 'joining prayers'

1) When can it be done?
2) There are apparently instances where you can do it just because... like say you're running late, you make the intention and it'll be okay, is that correct?
3) Correct method of how to perform the salaah...



and is there really a hadith what says smiling at your parents/father is equivalent to the reward of Hajj?

Please could you provide evidence because been wondering for a while, read it a couple of times on ummah... no reference.. so is it actually authentic?

and do you know whether this means I can't sleep with a little light on? I tried to switch it off one time after reading that but the reflections in the mirror freaked me out. =/ still if it means I have to then insha Allah I'll get some courage... =o

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=222025&page=2

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The Prophet SAW said: “Turn off the lamps while sleeping” – Bukhari

The use of electric lights with the subsequent elongation of the ‘daylight’ hours causes the pineal gland to release hormones that (among other potentially harmful changes) stimulates early puberty in young females. – Borysenko,1998.

So turning of all lamps, (even dim lights), when we sleep saves us from many problems caused by hormonal imbalances.

Until recently, medical science has not paid much attention to the health hazards of energetic toxins, as their effects are not recognisable in the short term. Dr Andrew Weil warns that the danger of damage to your brain and the rest of your body associated with exposure to electromagnetic radiation is directly proportional to the cumulative amount of radiation received over your lifetime. So do not underestimate any small dose of radiation, as it adds to your total exposure and increases your risk of health problems. –Weil 1998.

Source: Healing Body and Soul by Amira Ayad

Sunan Abu-Dawud: Book 26 (Kitab-Al-Ashribah), Number 3722:

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah: The Prophet said: Shut your door and make mention of Allah's name, for the devil does not open a door which has been shut; extinguish your lamp and make mention of Allah's name, cover up your vessel even by a piece of wood that you just put on it and make mention of Allah's name, and tie up your water-skin mentioning Allah's name

does it mean a flame?

oh yes. When behind an imam and it's one of the silent prayers, what do you do? =o Like if you're at the back even because you can't hear him recite fatiha so you read it, but then a surah after that... what if you start praying something long and his is short?

hold on... that top bit says it's in Bukhari and the actual hadith with reference is in sunan Abu-Dawud?

also I know it's completely off topic...

is it sunnah to like/eat vinegar? OR was it a food preference of his ? Do we have to like vinegar too? I don't even know if it's authentic but I heard it before too, like vinegar is sunnah to eat .. is it?

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Because in that fiqh of love lecture it says you gotta give back! And I was wondering well what if the pair don't want their gifts back..

Who gave the lecture? and on what did he base his ruling that it must be given back?

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hmm... ? When you're nikah is happening, and you're there and you say yes okay whatever and he's like yes I accept, do you have to be separate from one another or can you be there together? Obviously with hijaab proper and everything cause he's not hubby yet and he'd have his witnesses there too right?

I find it sad if the girl is somewhere else and the man is somewhere else.. and the people have come to her to ask her whether she accepts or not.. can't she be in the same room. ? Is that not allowed?

You haven't experienced a marriage yet innay? the woman has a wakeel, normally the fatehr, the daughter gives her permission that she accepts to marry so and so, then her part is over, the men then go to the masjid and the father is now like the daughter that's getting married.

I am not aware of women being in the presence of the husband during the nikah in the time of Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu 'Alayhi wa Sallam, so to do it now would just be opening a door to fitnah.

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And subh here it says at 1:24 and sunrise begins at 4:43... so you wait like 12/15 minutes and then you're okay to pray any kind of salaah again?

What time is the sun properly up? 5:30?

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Are you completely positive?

100% positive.

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Expand on this please.

When can you not listen to them? Only on matters in Islam that are fard, correct? And anything else you want to do and they aren't happy with you must listen to them?

It depends, each situation will be different, so each one must be asnwered seperately.